Sunday, November 25, 2018

Christmas 1988

Thirty years ago, our sister Becky alighted upon our Eden Prairie home with her crew from Better Homes and Gardens Christmas Ideas Book. We’ve never forgotten the fun of watching them assemble display after display for inclusion in it. And when the photo shoot was over, they left behind a marvelous Christmas Tree, and poinsettias and other holiday stuff. Never have we had such a magnificently designed holiday season. Here’s some snapshots of the idea book we cherish to this day.



Friday, November 23, 2018

Thanksgiving 2018


So much to be grateful for this Thanksgiving Day and this picture shows just a part of it. We had almost a dozen, with grandson Maxwell at his Aunt's and Marcy in California. But making up for that was Melissa's special guests from Indiana, Diane's mother and sister. And Hoi, Marcy's ex, was here too, and had a wonderful time. Jennifer's boyfriend Jim, who took this picture, is now a vegetarian but not only carved our turkey, but excused himself to attend another family gathering, and carve a second turkey! Kathleen did a super job putting it all together, with some help, but said this may be her last turkey, and she might be relying more on her competent daughters in the future. In the photo above, Peggy, Linda, Emily, look-a-like aunt Jennifer, Stan, Hoi, Melissa, Diane and Kathleen.

Sunday, November 18, 2018

Look who we ran into today downtown!

From left, fun-seekers Stan, Mitch, Breck and Kathleen
We had just parked in the ramp downtown and gone into the elevator when we were joined out of the blue by someone familiar. It was Breck and Mitch, our niece and her husband. Hugs all around while our friends, Stacy and Kitty, were left to wonder just who this is. We all had tickets to "The Book of Mormon," a sold-out musical at the Orpheum Theater. We walked through bitter cold, then had a nice chat in the lobby. The musical was hilarious, has had nine Tony awards, and irreverent as well, even crossing our red line from time to time. Thoroughly enjoyed it, although our friends were a bit jet-lagged from a trip to Israel.

Sunday, November 11, 2018

Cuppa tea in the Hobbit Hole

You couldn't stand up, which makes sense. Hobbits are not as tall as we are.

Aunt Marcy led us to this magic place
We explored an honest-to-goodness hobbit hole this afternoon, dug out in the back yard of a fairy house somewhere in Edina. They're friends of Marcy's and we used the occasion to transfer Emily from Auntie to Grandpa today, while Mom did some errands. We had a hobbit once, only thing is, you couldn't get inside. This was a lot more fun.

Watch the first step. Entrance to the hole.

Friday, November 09, 2018

What?


You'll have to forgive us. We can't help it. Please try to understand. Jennifer's clear scan on Monday brought out so many feelings of joy we looked for ways to express them, and why not? Joy to the World! The season of happiness came a little early for us, that's all. Just when we thought the season might be dark for us, the lights came on! So the tree came out and the decorations too. Hope all our new neighbors get it, we'll be happy to tell anyone the reason for rushing the season.
And Jennifer will host the family Christmas at her place this year!

Monday, November 05, 2018

Stunning news on Jennifer!

Three and one-half years ago our youngest (47) told us she had stage four metastatic breast cancer. The cancer had spread and she had a two to six year estimate of her mortality. We were devastated.

So began her fight.  International in scope, it involved the conventional chemotherapy regimens and mastectomy, but she was encouraged to try other things, and she did, including special diets, native lodges, Eastern treatments and so on. An exploratory trip to Mexico was started, then aborted. Since the beginning, her friend, Kate, gave her incredible support. Her boyfriend took over that role a year ago, and the rest of us did what we could.

This summer we had run out of solutions to try, the painful tumors were affecting arm movements, medications were exhausting her, and we resigned ourselves to accept whatever came next, always hoping for the best.

Then Jennifer learned of a cancer study looking for volunteers. A trial necessary before any FDA approval. Although she said no to some other studies in the past, this one sounded different, more in line with her values. Instead of just injections of a chemical that would hopefully kill the cancer, this compound is a one, two, punch. Yes, it contains chemotherapy but it also contains immunothererapy, which shows your own immune system that your cancer cells are something to get rid of. 

Having embraced the natural world most of her life it sounded appealing to Jennifer to teach her own body what to do, so she signed up.

With Jennifer wearing a shirt reading “Lab Rat” that she had printed at a T-shirt shop, she bravely began the trial on September 24, getting her first dose of the experimental cocktail. Nausea, exhaustion, fatigue, pain.

It was less than a month before we got the first positive news. The pain and swelling in her arm was subsiding. She could feel the bulges from the ping pong ball and large marble-size tumors shrinking. She didn’t need the arm wrap. The tumors were smaller, much smaller! We were ecstatic, but tried to remain cautiously optimistic.

Today we had a meeting with her oncologist and a representative from the study, and also a reading from a CT Scan. We expected even more positive news. But this?

Jennifer’s latest CT Scan results show NO detectable tumors. Gone. Vanished! 

There were tears of joy of course, and we thought about how all our lives would change. We texted, we smiled, we laughed for joy, we told the man waiting by the elevators what had happened, such great news bursting our reserved demeanor. It was all I could do to not make an announcement in the waiting room, but then remembering the many people there who may face different outcomes and problems, I zipped it.

But I want you to know how joyful we are! 

Has anyone seen our daughter's tumors? They're missing. They can't be found anywhere. She's had them for years. Whereabouts unknown.

We're so happy we get silly.

Jennifer will continue in the study, receiving regular infusions, all cost-free of course, she’s a test subject. Just because you can’t see the tumors on a CT scan doesn’t mean there isn’t something microscopic still in there. The infusions continue indefinitely. Right now she is the star of the show, the oncologist is stunned. They’ve never had this outcome before, at their office, Jennifer is the only patient taking this drug in this situation.

Jennifer is a true pioneer and our hero. It’s the same technology that miraculously cured Jimmy Carter of a different, unrelated cancer. This is a new adaptation and they’ll be surveying her for the rest of her life.

We’re thinking it will be a long one.